365 Days to Self-Reliance: Day 1 - Making the Goal

There seem to be lots of books and blogs and even a movie or two about people striving to reach certain goals within a year. I’ve got to admit ever since watching Julie & Julia I’ve been intrigued myself. I don’t know about anyone else but even though a year seems like such a long time it’s frustrating to see how quickly it can go by. Lately one of my biggest ponderings has been about the time that Heavenly Father gives us. Personally I believe it’s one of His greatest gifts. If that’s true and each year or day or even minute is a gift from Him shouldn’t I be working harder to make the most of them? When I look back on the past year do I see growth or stagnation? Worse yet, am I falling behind?

I usually would put it off indefinitely with the notion that I should wait for something like New Year’s or my birthday but I’ve come believe in the wisdom of starting where you are and starting now. Although there are lots of things I feel like I need to work on the one that's been weighing most heavily on my mind lately is self-reliance.

So today I'm making a goal. Over the next 365 days I'm going to be learning more about self-reliance and implementing  the ideas and information that feel right for us now. By July 30, 2015 I plan on having achieved a basic level of self-reliance. This means that I'll be making goals in the areas of education, health, work/employment, home storage, finances, and spiritual strength. The intent of my year long challenge is to strengthen and secure my home and family so that we can then reach out more effectively to help those around us. That's what I believe the basic message of self-reliance is.

What about you? Do you have any big goals that have been nagging at you lately? Suggestions for me to help with mine? I’d love to hear about them.Wish me luck!

Monday Gospel Musings: Anchoring Deep

In general I try my best to listen to the talks that we have during our meetings on Sundays. It's often hard with the three little ones. I'm usually busy just trying to keep them maintaining some semblance of reverence that I might get a piece here or a piece there but overall I don't get to just listen. Yesterday was a bit of an exception. It was one of those amazing talks that I think everyone was listening to. Even Tiger for once just sat on his daddy's lap contentedly. (although I think I did have to chase down Bear once when he decided that the chairs in front of us made a great tunnel to crawl through).

So as the rain poured and thunder crashed outside the speaker shared these thoughts:

He had been working in South Florida 30-40 years ago when a big hurricane was destined to hit. He described the rush of preparations that takes place prior to these events. It brought back many child-hood memories of mine as we were caught up in similar preparation rushes.

His story went on that he had a friend from work that had recently purchased a house boat. The friend was desperately trying to secure it against the storm and asked for help. A couple of them got together and started trying to tie the house boat down with great lengths of rope.

Sometime during this process an older man spotted them and took pity. He told them the only real thing to do was to place four anchor points around the boat, anchor it deep, give the ropes some slack, and hope for the best.

The speaker then went on to say how we all face impending storms in our lives. It could be in the form of natural disasters, employment, relationships, or health. It really doesn't matter. What matters is how we are anchored.

Are we anchoring deep in to the Gospel of Christ? Do we know that God is our loving Heavenly Father? Do we know that He sent His Son to live and die for us? Do we believe that Christ atoned for our sins and that we can live again with Him? Are we keeping the commandments that He has given us and searching His words?

Anyways, the talk got me thinking. A lot. I think it's time that I worked a bit on my own anchors.

My Two Cents: The Problems with Child Immigration

Lately there have been a lot of postings and articles about the current waves of children coming from South and Central America to the United States. There is a really good article on some of the problems and statistics written by Kathleen Newland here.

I will say that the articles that have irked me the most are the ones who say that it’s un-Christian to say that we should do anything but accept these children freely. It’s true, if we believe in Christ we are to do all we can to take care of the poor and less-fortunate. That’s not my issue. My issue is this - Are we really doing what we can to take care of these children by encouraging them to come to America on their own?

I don’t think so.

First we’re encouraging these children to be separated from their families. In some cases this may have happened prior to their decision to come to the United States but I personally think that children need to have a family to take care of them and that’s something that they’re not likely to get coming into the United States right now. According to some figures in 2010 there were 74,181,467 children under 18 in the United States. On an average day 397,000 of these children are in foster care. Over 58,000 of these are children who have had their parental rights permanently terminated and could be adopted but aren’t. Each year 10% of these children are aging out of the system. With almost 60,000 children coming in illegally each year that would need placement and homes as well the chance of these children finding families becomes pretty unlikely.

Without homes and families these children are going to struggle for the rest of their lives. Statistics for those who age out of foster homes without being adopted show an increased risk for homelessness, poor health, unemployment, illegal activity and the like. When you add in the fact that these refugee children will also be facing these challenges while dealing with language and culture barriers, the odds are against their success here.

To me placing these children in that kind of situation doesn’t speak of Christlike love. That doesn’t mean that we can just sit back either. If we really want to extend Christlike love to these children, I believe that there are some changes that we can make.

The first is accepting our own role in their problems. America is facing a drug crisis and until we stop consuming drugs from these foreign countries the drug cartels and violence are going to continue.

The next thing we can do is to work on strengthening their families. We need to find ways to help keep their families together. Part of the solution might mean working towards policies that promote legal family immigration. Even better than that would be working on ways to strengthen these families and help them find safety and education in their own countries so that they can help be a force for good there to help fight against the evils that are so threatening now.

I think in addition to those things we also then need to look at being willing to open our own homes to those who can’t find other solutions. I’ve known some amazing people who were foster/adoptive parents and really did a lot of good. It’s hard and challenging no doubt but in the end result I think we can do more and must do more to make sure that those who really can’t be with their biological families for one reason or another are taken care of and loved.

Calling Poison Control

So tonight we had to call the poison control hotline. Again. This is the third time I’ve had to do it. Once was because Tiger had taken some of the antibiotics meant for Monkey. Another was because one of the kids decided to eat half a tube of toothpaste. Tonight Bear found the kids gummy multi-vitamins and decided to feast on about half of the bottle – around 50-80 of the little guys. Little guy is getting more and more clever I tell you, he’s a good kid but I think I’m going to have a handful managing his curiosity.

Anyways, the people on the hotline are awesome. They really are. Each time they’ve calmly checked everything out and thankfully each time we’ve been told everything would be all right. Somehow they even manage to not laugh at my paranoia. At least not while I'm on the line. I bet they have some funny stories to tell though. Tonight was the closest call because Bear is so little but thankfully there’s no iron in the vitamins so the worst they said should be a really upset stomach with maybe some constipation or vomiting. All in all, he enjoyed his feast and hasn’t shown any signs of it having phased him at all yet!

So any parents out there – have you had to call poison control for something random like toothpaste or vitamins?

If you haven't had to call yet, be thankful but just remember the number is usually in the front pages of any phone book and don't be afraid just to check things out even if it seems crazy. Better safe than sorry.