How it Works: Every Tuesday I’ll be sharing a “bite” of a
book I’m currently reading. Just a two or three sentences from a page I’ve
already read that I feel gives a little insight to the feel of the book or
something I found interesting up to that point along with the page that it
comes from and the total number of pages in the book. I’ll also share a quick
preview opinion of it as a whole to that point. If you want to join in the fun
and share your current reads please leave it in the comments or link to your
site.
The Book: Stowaway by Karen Hesse
Book Bite: "SATURDAY 9th [New Continent--Lat. 34°44’S] We have come
upon islands that the Captain calls the Cavelles. The natives here did not come near at first, having heard from
other natives of our guns. Tupia was able to calm their fears and spent a good
time talking with them." (from pg. 143/300)
My Thoughts So Far: I love that it's based on the true story of a
young boy who stowed away on Captain Cook's voyage. I think that the journaling
style made it a little hard to get into at first and can be frustrating because
she only speaks of places and things as the boy would have known them so it's
not always clear where they are or what they're looking at. Still there are so many amazing things that took place on
their voyage that make it easy to get caught up in the adventure. I
think would be fun to base a unit study around this book and I can easily see my
10yr old loving the story. (currently on pg. 204/300)
Tuesday, May 30, 2017
Tuesday, January 24, 2017
Musings on Pregnancy and Labor
Hopefully I’ll be able to make sense out of a few of my
thoughts with my current muddled baby brain. Just a little longer now before
our new little bundle of joy will be here. I’ve been having to juggle between
what needs to still be done and what I can actually do without setting myself
up for an extra early delivery (something I’d really rather not do!)
There’s so much that I find interesting about pregnancy. The
thing that’s been on my mind mostly lately is that I’m heading into that “lovely”
time when it has to be preferable to go through the pain of labor and whatever
may follow than dealing with the uncomfort of pregnancy any longer. I try not
to complain because I know it has its purpose – after all who in their right
mind would subject themselves to labor unless it was preferable to the
alternative.
I think it was soon after Monkey was born and I was
discussing it with someone else the idea that we have a very selective memory
when it comes to pain, especially the pain of birth. I said if we didn’t that
no one would have ever had more than one child. Although I never wanted to hurt
anyone during labor and never yelled all those things that you hear about in
labor stories (“HOW COULD YOU DO THIS TO ME!?!”) I do remember wanting to smack
the nurses for being what I considered artificially supportive and sweet. They
kept just telling me how well I was doing even though I was convinced of the
very opposite. My mantra at the end was that despite the seeming impossibility
of what my body was about it do that women had been doing this for thousands of
years and I could too. I’m not sure how well I believed myself either.
As time passed a little I told myself that it wasn’t exactly
selective memory because I realized I would never forget how painful it was just
that all the pain was swallowed up in the joy and miracle of new life. As the boys were each born I wondered over
the miracle and what followed as well. Why was I willing to do this again? I
knew that as amazingly perfect as these new little gifts were, pregnancy,
labor, and motherhood were the greatest challenges I had ever experienced and
would ever experience in life. Why would I do that to myself? Why would I want
to add more to my already overflowing plate? Why was I still listening to those
nurses telling me I was a superwoman when I was so full of pain and fear and
was sure they were only saying what they said to each new momma to try sound
supportive?
Then I realized it’s true, and even though they may say it
to each woman who delivers, it doesn’t make it less true. We are super women. What
we do is impossibly hard. I wonder now though if that isn’t part of it. No who
we are though and no matter the challenge we face – when we have reached the
other side we are stronger for it. We no longer have to wonder if we could be
that strong, we can say that we were and that we are. Strength is only built or
discovered as we face those hardest of hard things. We are designed to find
fulfillment in the challenges of life.
So to that I say, it doesn’t matter that those stairs still
seem like a mountain or that I can’t see my toes, this challenge too will pass
into joy in its own time and its own way and whatever happens I will be the
stronger and better for it. I just need to look for the blessings and continue
to have faith in myself and the gifts I am given by He who has endured all and
loves us all.
Tuesday, January 17, 2017
Book Bites: Diary of Anne Frank
How it Works: Every Tuesday I’ll be sharing a “bite” of a
book I’m currently reading. Just a two or three sentences from a page I’ve
already read that I feel gives a little insight to the feel of the book or
something I found interesting up to that point along with the page that it
comes from and the total number of pages in the book. I’ll also share a quick
preview opinion of it as a whole to that point. If you want to join in the fun
and share your current reads please leave it in the comments or link to your
site.
The Book: The Diary of a Young Girl: Anne Frank (The
Definitive Edition); edited by Otto Frank and Mirjam Pressler, translated by
Susan Massotty
Book Bite: “Every night hundreds of planes pass over Holland
on their way to German cities, to sew their bombs on German soil. Every hour
hundreds, or maybe even thousands, of people are being killed in Russia and
Africa. No one can keep out of the conflict, the entire world is at war, and
even though the Allies are doing better, the end is nowhere in sight.” pg
80/338
My Thoughts So Far: I picked this up the other day after
realizing that I had somehow never read it before. So far I’m only about nine
months into the journal and it’s been interesting to see how going into hiding
has affected the chatty 13 year old and her family and hearing her perspective
on the Germans and war and life in general during that awful time. It’s hard to
conceive of such hatred and sadness and what it would have been like to have to
live in those conditions.
Thursday, January 5, 2017
Lessons I've Learned from Watching Cars
My boys have both loved the Disney movie Cars. Bear was
extremely upset when our copy broke a few months ago so we decided to get him a
new copy for part of his Christmas presents. He played and had fun on Christmas
with everyone but the day after Christmas he was wanting some time to just
relax and asked us if he could watch it.
I have to admit that I have a love hate relationship with
electronics in general and vegging out in front of the television especially. I
realized though that even with entertainment there’s lots that we can be
learning.
So in honor of Bear and Tiger here are some things that I’ve
learned from watching Cars:
-
True success comes when we slow down to notice
the people and things around us. By all the normal standards and appearances
Lighting was successful and therefore should have been happy but he wasn’t. He
didn’t really find true and lasting success until he took the time to see
beyond himself and slow down and appreciate the simple gifts of life like good
friends and a beautiful view.
-
One person serving others in simple ways can
make a big difference. When Lightning’s attitude changed he didn’t just make a
mental note of it and move on – he found ways to serve and help and boosted the
spirit of everyone around him and not only helped them by supporting their
businesses but really helped them.
-
If you’ve got extra of something make the most
of it. The cars of Radiator Springs may have appeared to have been just sitting
around but they spent that time helping each other and developing talents.
(After all, who can change a tire as fast as Guido!)
-
The best forms of correction are connected with
the wrong and involve thinking a step ahead. Sargent didn’t have to worry about
Lightning driving off after he limited the gas that would allow him to do so.
Doc didn’t have to race Lightning head on to show him that he had a lot to
learn still and give him a little dose of needed humility.
-
Be willing to take advice from those older and
wiser – even when it doesn’t seem to make sense. Even after Lightning knew who
Doc was he still didn’t fully trust him at first when Doc offered some advice
and remained frustrated until he decided to.
-
Don’t be afraid to accept help. One of
Lightning’s downfalls that we see was his inability to accept help from others
– he was so determined to prove it all on his own he didn’t realize just how
much we all need each other. When he finally realized that life if a give and
take of receiving and giving help he became the hero.
-
Relax and keep a sense of humor. Mater was the
king of this – he never took himself too seriously and just was who he was and
it’s why everyone loved him and why he was able to reach out to Lightning when
no one else really had.
-
Sometimes you have to lose yourself to find
yourself. I love the end song. It’s so true of life (and even scripturally
based – whoda thunk!) Lightning McQueen had lost his inner direction, a course
that lead to him also losing his physical sense of place and being lost in
every sense of the word. Sometimes we find ourselves in similar situations
where we just don’t know which way is up or what to do. In truth (although yes
he’s a cartoon and no real, but people do the exact same thing) he probably
never thought beyond the finish line. As he came to grips with being lost
though he was finally able to address the problem and find his way and knew
there was more than a trophy that he wanted from life.
Tuesday, December 20, 2016
What Did Mary Really Know?
We were all snuggled up listening to some Christmas songs on
YouTube the other night and Pentatonix’s version of Mary Did You Know came
up. A little bit later Monkey said she
wondered how much Mary really did know. It got me thinking and the song has
been stuck on replay in my head since.
We know for sure that she knew that by some divine miracle she
was going to be the mother of the Son of God. We also know that she must have
known her heritage and known that He would also be of her royal bloodline with
the right to literally be King of the Jews. Guesses would say that especially
as Christ was born and grew and the miracles and testimonies of His divinity
continued to multiply she probably felt at various times awe, confusion,
excitement, and worry and all range of motherly emotions. Somedays she likely looked at him as just her
child much like any other, sometimes the scriptures tell us there were at least
hints of a grand (though probably not completely understood) future yet to
come, and other times there was surely overwhelming testimony that she was
responsible for mothering the Savior of the World although what that meant
exactly was also probably still a bit hazy.
Now I won’t get into all of the deep down questions that
could be asked or thought about that, I think there are really lots of interesting
questions to ponder in regards to this but I wondered what I could learn from
her.
Then it hit me.
I am a modern Mary.
Just hear me out for a minute. We believe that we are all
children of God. Not in the same way that Christ was of course, but we each
have some of God the Father’s divine nature within us. He is still the Father
of our Spirits even if He isn’t the Father of our flesh. He cares about each of
us more than we can know and wants us to be like Him.
As such every mother to an extent is just like Mary. We are
all given precious little gifts from Heaven that He has entrusted to our care.
We, like her, probably have times when understanding who they really are or
recognizing their full potential seems hard to grasp. Most of the time we
likely look at them with eyes of expected routine and normalcy. Sometimes we
get glimpses of their greatness. If we’re lucky every once in a rare while we
pause and remember that these are His children with an inner divine power
beyond our comprehension.
Most of the time no matter where we are in our thoughts
we’re just hoping we don’t mess them up. Here too we can look to Mary. She,
like us, was completely human. I’m sure she made mistakes - probably lots of
them. Still if we looked to what the scriptures teach us about how she handled
it we see that she cherished the moments that came, remained faithful, and kept
learning from and loving Christ throughout His life, even as she watched His
final minutes of mortality.
We can do the same. We can keep making the most of each
moment we have. We can learn from our children and share with them all that we
can. Most importantly we can keep loving them through all their ups and downs
tests and trials and give them reassurance that come what may we will always by
their side to the very best of our abilities.
Saturday, December 17, 2016
Learning about Marriage from Cindy Lou Who WFL Guest Post
So today I had another fun guest post published on Ramona Zabriskie's Wife for Life Blog. I talk about one of my favorite Christmas movies and the lessons we can learn about love from it and how Cindy Lou Who can help us strengthen our marriages and relationships with those around us. Hope you enjoy!
Thursday, December 15, 2016
Ideas for Santa's Helpers
For most of her life Leace never really completely trusted
Santa, the Easter Bunny, and especially not the Tooth Fairy (she said that
anyone who wasn't your mom or dad coming into your room at night to take your teeth was just creepy). Part of this was probably because we’d been hesitant
to completely confirm any of these legends and decided overall to handle it
by mostly just avoiding any of the topics of belief. Anyways I still remember
the Easter morning she demanded that we fess up the truth about the Easter
Bunny and all the rest. We explained that in our house we focus on the spirit
of the holidays instead of worrying so much about bunnies and big guys in red.
As part of the consolation package that Christmas she got to be Santa’s helper
and help fill the stockings.
She did really pretty well with understanding that she
wasn’t allowed to ruin the belief of others – until Eddy was about 7. She felt
it her big sister obligation to explain everything to him. Thankfully however, whatever
she ended up saying he took it well and so that year it was his turn to be
Santa’s helper with the stockings.
Last year that left me trying to decide how we would do
stockings. I decided that all of the Santa’s helpers would swap and have a set
amount of money to fill someone else’s stocking. It was fun and worked out
pretty well. It did end up not being so secret by the time Christmas came but
overall everyone ended up pretty satisfied on both the giving and receiving end
of things.
This year Leace asked if we could change it up a bit. I
gave her and Eddy a small amount of money they could spend on every other
person in the family for stocking stuffers. Then we headed off to one of Leace’s favorite stores – the Dollar Tree. At first Eddy was a little
hesitant but even he realized he could handle the task on his own and they each
grabbed a basket and to shopping they went. Both kids really enjoyed being able
to go out on their own in the store picking out things for everyone.
I know that everyone likes to do things their own way and
I’m sure there’s lots of great ways to handle this (I’d love to hear any ideas
that people have!) but I just wanted to share both of these ways since they
have been so much fun for us. Seeing them take part in being able to pick out
presents for each other has been much more fun than just taking care of it all
for them. They not only get the chance to serve but get the rewards of growing
up and taking on the good parts of responsibility.
Monday, November 21, 2016
Musings on Gratitude
***Please note that these musings are not intended to be a lecture or sermon. They're definitely not intended as a sign of how "good" I am or as evidence that I've got the craziness of life figured out in the least but are often for my own self as I ponder the person I hope to be. I just hope that maybe by sharing them they might help someone else along the way.***
“Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
Life has always had a lot of ups and downs. We all have
them. It’s just part of being human. Sometimes we may look around at all the
platitudes of perfection that are on social media or the covers of our favorite
magazines and wonder why it seems like we’ve unfairly received more than our
fair share of the downs though. After all, why can’t we have a fairy godmother
come and make everything work out? Wouldn’t that just be so much nicer? I know
I’ve spent more than my share of hours wishing for just such a thing.
The thing about wishing for what we don’t have though is
that it doesn’t allow us to think of just how blessed we are. One of the memes I
saw recently that really struck home said something to the effect of while
we’re busy wishing for all the things we wish we had someone else is wishing
for the things we have already been blessed with. Definitely something to think
about when we start whining about things that really won’t make a difference 5
days from now or even 5 years.
We may never know why things work out the way they do but
dwelling on the what might have beens or the way we wish things were only
brings us down. If instead we think about the things that we do have to be
grateful for we realize that each of us has been given so many amazing gifts
that we can’t even really begin to start counting them.
This lesson really hit home for me when someone was
discussing how gratitude affects our prayers. They suggested considering how
long we usually pray for and then taking that amount of time and trying to
write out as many of our blessings as we could think of. When the time was up
review the list and then ponder what life would be like if you woke up the next
morning with only the things on your list.
I’m definitely not perfect at it, even though I tend to
think of myself as a fairly positive person I’ve realized lately just how often
I let the bad take control over the good and start in on the whining and
complaining and dreamily wishing. Now don’t get me wrong, wishing is fine but
we’ve got to be willing to put some action behind it and make it happen. When
we start going down those empty negative roads we just end up feeling even more
negative and it snowballs on itself but when we stop and intentionally turn
ourselves towards gratitude it’s like a whole new world of joy opens up before
us.
Like I said, I know we all go through things though and
sometimes it really is just ridiculous little stuff but sometimes it’s hard - really
hard. As I gain more perspective on life I realize that even in those darkest of moments when I’ve felt like there’s nothing but me and the storm there
have been blessings and lots of them– blessings of strength, comfort, friendship, care, and
so much more. I can realize looking back that I
really wasn’t as alone as I felt and I know that I wouldn’t change any of those
moments because they have taught me so much and helped me become the person I
am. If that’s true than when moments of wind and hail come I probably need to
focus on the lessons I’m learning and the growth I’m achieving if I want to
keep moving forward in the future and trust and have faith that things will continue to work out as I do so.
I’m so thankful for this time of year when we can all take a
little time to ponder our gratitude and allow it to help shape us instead of
allowing pride and jealousy destroy the beauty all around us. My wish is that
it will help us all find a little more joy and a little more love and realize
amidst all the false enticements and notions of "reality" the things that matter most.
Thursday, November 17, 2016
Giving Back: Fall Date Night Ideas WFL Guest Post
I am really excited to have the opportunity to guest post on Ramona Zabriskie's WFL Blog today. I love all the seasons and holidays and Thanksgiving always has a special place in my heart. I love that it's the time of year when we think about all the things we're thankful for and for me at least it makes me want to show my gratitude by doing things to help others. Hope you enjoy some of my ideas for planning a date night that is not only fun but allows for gratitude and giving back to others!
Monday, October 31, 2016
Musings on Symbolism and the Sacrament
Some more quick musings from church yesterday – definitely Gospel
according to Deb and more food for thought than anything else. Definitely not thoughts that are intended to represent the church or its doctrine.
While the Sacrament was being blessed and passed I thought
of how symbolic it all is at a level I hadn’t appreciated before. The
priesthood blessed it and passed it in symbolism of Christ blessing and passing
it (which is pretty significant and amazing in itself). In each row though the
members passed and shared it among each other.
Isn’t that a beautiful and powerful symbol of how the Lord’s
gift of the Atonement works in each of our lives? He is the source of the
blessing and sanctifying but we all help share that with each other, sometimes
we receive directly from the Holy Spirit but many times that Spirit comes to us
through the offerings and service of loved ones, friends, teachers, and others that Heavenly Father has
given us. Everyone takes turns receiving and sharing. It’s also done in a very
quiet and personal hand to hand and one by one way.
I think that so often it’s too easy to get caught up in the
repetition and forget the simple symbolic beauty of so much of our worship. It
was a good reminder for me to really think about what’s going on and take some
time to ponder what God is trying to teach us.
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